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I’m Ok – You’re Ok! Creating an Assertive and Empathetic Mindset

A WEEK BY WEEK SNEAKY PEAK

Week 1: Our 3 Brains!

Your brain is the most powerful and complex supercomputer ever built. It’s the one thing that makes you, you! Your brain is mission control for the rest of your body. It sits in the driver’s seat and steers you through life. Welcome back to the 3 main parts of your brain!

Week 2: Empathy – Understanding Other People’s Brains.

Empathy is when you try to understand what makes someone react, behave, or appear the way they do. It is often described as ‘putting oneself in somebody else’s shoes’. It is far easier to judge someone than it is to feel empathy toward them. We begin to practice the skills we need to be more empathetic to each other.

Week 3: How Our Actions Affect Others.

It’s important to treat other people how we would like to be treated ourselves. When we are tempted to treat someone unkindly it is good to remind ourselves how we would feel if we were treated like that. Our words and actions can leave a lasting impression on others. Understanding “The Domino Effect”.

Week 4: I’m Ok – You’re Ok

Passive people behave as if other people’s rights matter more than their own. Aggressive people behave as if their own rights matter more than those of others. Assertive people respect themselves and others equally.                                       We look at how our behaviour and communication affect ourselves and others.

Week 5: Respecting Our Teammates

Learning how to win and lose at games and competitions is not easy and takes practice. If you get cross, stamp your feet and shout at your teammates after losing a game you will quickly alienate yourself from your peers, the same if you make a big fuss if you win. Understanding team etiquette and how to use these skills in life.

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Week 6: Leaving the Past Behind – Resilience

Learning to deal with life’s challenges can be like jumping hurdles. Some people get good at jumping hurdles and learn to jump them smoothly, it’s all in the practice. But if we jumped a hurdle and then thought “That was tough. I hated that hurdle. I always have to deal with hurdles. It isn’t fair” We would be so busy grumbling about the hurdle that we would might miss out on other wonderful things happening around us. This week we look at how many past hurdles we continue to carry around and JUMP them!

Week 7: Catastrophising

Catastrophic thoughts are unhelpful thoughts. They are what happen when someone thinks of a small worry as a big disaster. Catastrophic thoughts are like snowballs rolling down a hill that get bigger and bigger as they go. Catastrophic thoughts begin out as small worries. These small worries then trigger a larger unrealistic idea and the worry grows until what you are thinking could happen is huge and horrible.       We look at strategies to challenge our catastrophic thoughts.

Week 8: Black & White Thinking – Fixed & Growth Mindset

Black and white thinking is another kind of unhelpful thought. It means you think things are all bad or all good, with nothing in the middle. Black and white thinking can lead us to thinking about mistakes and failures as signs that a person isn’t ever going to succeed. We challenge these thoughts and learn the strategy “To flip our brains!”

Week 9: Exploring Failure

Having Perspective means looking at something in a different way. It also means learning from your mistakes. Those who don’t like to make mistakes have an especially hard time when things don’t work out the way they’d hoped. Sometimes you have to accept failure. To accept isn’t saying to yourself, “Oh well, I don’t care.” It’s saying to yourself, “This is hard and uncomfortable but I can handle it.” We use the “High 5” strategy.

Week 10: What Is Great About You? Affirmations.

It’s important to pay attention to lots of different parts of yourself. Widen your focus so you don’t miss seeing the beautiful scenery around you because you are only looking down at the muddy puddles at your feet!

Affirmations are words that we can say daily to remind ourselves of our strengths and help us improve our weaknesses.

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